Do you ever wonder why we get “stuck”? We get stuck because we think and do the same things over and over and over. These become habits and those are hard to break. There is only one moment of change or transformation and that is when you change your thinking about an experience.
When you look at a situation differently, you change the way it looks, and therefore, your thinking, feeling, and subsequent actions related to it will change.
Another way to put it is: “change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change”. When you are feeling stuck, how does that make you feel?
Not so good, right? And with all that is happening now, this may be more relevant than ever.
Perhaps you feel frustrated or angry. Maybe a situation or person stresses you out and makes you anxious. It could cause feelings of disappointment, sadness, or even depression — nobody wants to be there. A negative situation likely stirs up current or prior negative feelings of some kind. These feelings take you to a place of – suffering. You’re in a state of suffering.
When you’re in a suffering state your actions aren’t going to be in line with producing the transformation that you’re trying to achieve. Instead, you’re just going to keep getting the same result – being stuck, feeling lousy, and unproductive. This principle applies to every area of your life; think how you feel about losing weight… Do you think it’s hard to do? Do you say it out loud? I can’t lose weight, even if I do I will gain it back. This is not a successful way of thinking.
Does this sound familiar? Do you say this about finances? Relationships? Food?
Why are we stuck here?
In short, any positive transformation can only come from a positive or “beautiful state of being.” A “beautiful state” is essentially the exact opposite of a suffering state. When we have feelings of hope, gratitude, happiness, confidence, excitement, etc. we’re living in a beautiful state.
Think of a time when you were in a groove, making progress, having an excellent day, experience, relationship, etc. — You were also having feelings of the beautiful state.
So, basically there are 2 states of being:
- Beautiful State
- Suffering State
This is a concept I learned from one of my business coaches Justin Yule. You are always in one state or the other and can never be in both at the same time. Same as faith and worry – – They cannot coexist. It’s one or the other.
So, the BIG QUESTION then is…
How much time do you spend in a suffering state?
According to Justin, the average person spends about 4 hours/day, 28 hours/week, about 120 hours/month, almost 1500 hours/year in a suffering state! Is there any wonder why we get so stuck? Nope. You cannot be resourceful or productive when you’re in a suffering state.
When we’re in a beautiful state of being we can access our creativity. We get inspired and ideas just seem to flow, and, without getting even more woo-woo on you, we attract the results we want.
Big Tip: Here are some essential basics to help you make a transformation from suffering to beautiful state at any time.
- Gratitude – write down all the things you’re grateful for… even the seemingly small things
- Read – read a few pages from your favorite personal development book
- Music – listen to songs that make you feel good and even pump you up (my ‘go to’ is 80’s rock-good times)
- Phone a friend – Actually talk to someone who inspires and makes you feel good. Don’t call a friend to commiserate, get positive with someone.
- Get in a workout – get your oxygen and blood flowing and get energized. Even a short workout will get you fired up.
Until next time,