Have you ever set a goal of losing weight or getting in shape only to find yourself mowing down snacks, or slugging on the couch binge-watching a show while the day passes you by? Your goal of losing weight or getting in shape took a back seat to the sugary goodness or crispy salty crunch, or the “just one more episode” promise to yourself. You consciously want to make the change but you keep sabotaging your efforts after these stressful days. At that moment, your need for comfort and distraction through food or TV is stronger than your goal to drop weight or exercise. We think we want to act a particular way but each night we are elbow deep in the freezer looking for ice cream to chow during our binge-watch.
It can feel like your body as two minds. Ugh!
So you ask….. Why Do People Change?
Most people answer with ‘logic’. It makes sense to eat right and exercise and stop being destructive. Well, sure it does. But why are we still doing the other things and not these?
Each behavior serves a purpose.
Only you really know the deep answer of what purpose your behavior is serving. Eating mass amounts of veggies and fruits is pretty good for us to help live healthier, happier, and minimize disease. So the question arises, why do people refuse to eat them? The science backs eating them, logic says it’s a good thing to do, and it’s universally recognized as a good thing.
If it was logical, people wouldn’t smoke, drink and drive, or sleep less than 4 hours daily, because logically all those increase our risk of living a crappy life.
Here it is…..
People need an emotionally charged reason to change.
Why do you want to lose 10 pounds? What is your emotionally compelling reason to lose the weight or whatever else you want to accomplish that is hard? Maybe it’s to get back into a particular dress, old pair of pants, lose the hips or gut…
Why? So that you can fit into that dress you used to wear!
Why? So you can feel confident again!
Why? So you take your life back and stop hiding!
Do you see the progression of why, why, why? Now we are getting somewhere.
It isn’t just about losing weight but about the confidence you gain, the emotional impact, and likely if you keep asking Why, there is a deeper reason.
So I challenge you to really look at what change you keep trying to make that isn’t working, and peel it back.
Ask yourself ‘why’? And every time you have an answer, ask why again. Ask 5 times and see what answer reveals itself. You don’t have to share this revelation with anyone, but keep it at the front of your mind when you feel like quitting or not even starting…… What is your Why?
Dedicated to your success,